I am inclinded to agree about help.
It often comes with the caveat that it proves less than helpful, and, therefore when politely refused offense should not be taken.
My perfect example is yachties, who are very very good and usually very kind with offers to take your lines. However, many simply do not know what they are doing. It can be amusing because when you come along side they hold on with all their might, not realising that as much might as they think they have is but nothing to 26 tons wanting to go sideways. The trouble is they can so easily either end up in the drink hangin on to the line, with a cricked back, or simply leave you adrift. No, before accepting help it is well worth making sure the helper really knows what they are doing, otherwise you may well be a lot better off without any help at all.
, however well intended.
That may be all very well when you have time to take them through simple instructions, but you dont always have time, and even then, the most willing of helpers is not always able to carry out what to you and I may seem like simple instructions!
Let me help you pull the aircraft out - of course, yes please, such a shame you didnt think to tell me the wing on the side you are pulling was about to graze the adjoining aircraft.
No I suspect we have all been the beneficiary of help we could have done without, as well meaning and as kind as it was intended.
Mind you I always feel bad about not accepting the offer so in most circumstances I have my own little patter and blame myself if I havent conveyed what is needed. Please get the line straight around the cleat, you will never hold her, I shout! - and as they do, you do know how to lock it off dont you?